Dating Advice for Christian Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

Naturally, we strive to remain true in our beliefs. For some Christian men, it is vital that their experience of love stay within the boundaries of their church.

These boundaries include sex and marriage.

Whether we follow it or not, there are validities of free will choices at work here and it is not for us to judge this belief.

Ancient cultures used to believe that when partaking in sex, a part of the other person’s soul would mingle with yours, and that you’d carry that person around with you for the rest of your life.

In some respects, this is true. So the doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

It is truly a difficult union for anyone who is married and incompatible therefore, sex is important.

These few outlooks are especially for men who face the challenge of mixing faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Our faith is meant to guide us through life. Because of this, it is very important to be clear on what it is you believe.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Be aware that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

Learn to be proactive in finding the right woman for you.

Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting to know them – this is not just stuff that happens. We have to MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the path God has set out for us, because our actions are based on what we believe.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost – the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

You might be tempted to place a woman on a pedestal when your faith places sex as so important.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

Being human, we share similar characteristics. We must learn to love the reality of women rather than idealizing them.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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