How To Generate Attraction – No Matter Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

They could be too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract women.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

How is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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