Top Product: Secrets Of The Alpha Man

Website: www.alphaconfidence.com
Author: Carlos Xuma
Company: DD Publications
Rating: 3 1/2 out of 5

Carlos Xuma is another dating guru who’s been active in courting mainstream attention. He’s not as mainstream as David DeAngelo, but he’s not as obscure as Joseph Matthews either. He falls somewhere in between.

I’ve checked out a lot of Mr. Xuma’s dating products. Most of them are quite average – at least in my opinion. But one of his products really caught my attention as being really, really good. And that was his “Secrets Of The Alpha Man” course.

Carlos is very big on teaching guys how to be “Alpha.” In fact, this is the focus of most of his products. But this course in particular moves beyond the realm of “being alpha” to getting your inner game where it needs to be to naturally attract women.

Carlos Xuma is great for teaching inner game and for teaching principles to apply in real life. He is not going to help you be cool like David DeAngelo does. He is not going to help you be smooth like Mystery does. What he is going to do is he is going to tell you how to lead a life where there is no emptiness…nothing missing inside.

You will then be able to naturally attract women without technique but in a low key way. Think of it like this… Mystery gives you a house… David Deangelo gives you the furniture, and Mr. Xuma gives you the foundation… although Joseph Matthews also give you some great foundation on inner game as well, but not as in-depth as this course does.

Where Mr. Xuma really shines is that he doesn’t worry about anyone else – his focus is on your own thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires. To him, being “alpha” is about getting what you want, not acting like a jerk.

The Good

Secrets Of The Alpha Man is a good course. It’s a digital course, so you’ll be downloading the content. It consists of a 390 page ebook, a bonus ebook, seven hours of audio, and four pre-recorded coaching sessions.

The meat of the course is the ebook and the audios. The coaching calls and bonus ebook are just filler, for the most part.

The ebook is very in depth and covers how to change and cultivate your attitude to be more attractive, and how to supercharge your confidence to achieve anything you want.

Mr. Xuma’s inner game insights are extremely profound. This course really challenges you to dig so deep that that at times it’s hard to get through the actual material!

In my tests, I found that after doing Mr. Xuma’s exercises, women actually responded to me differently. I got better reactions, pick up became easier, and I became more confident all around.

My two compatriots, Larry and Bill, got similar results. Though Larry really applied the material, Bill was not as active in this course as Larry and I, and didn’t get as much out of it as we did.

However, the changes in our interactions with women because of our newfound “alphaness’ was noticeable enough to attribute the success to Mr. Xuma and his teachings.

The Bad

Not everything in this course is powerful or effective. A lot of is is what I can only call “psychological mumbo-jumbo” and filler. That’s not to say there isn’t good stuff in the course, just that you have to separate the wheat from the chaff in order to get to that good stuff.

Probably the biggest drawback to the course is Mr. Xuma himself. I find his speaking patterns and voice slow and hard to follow. While listening to the course, I would often zone out. Perhaps Mr. Xuma should hire someone with a better voice to record his future courses, since all three of us – Bill, Larry, and myself – had a hard time paying attention to his voice.

I also think this course is slightly overpriced. It clocks in at a hefty $147. The Art Of Approaching advanced course has the same price tag, but you get WAY more material and a much better value in that instance than you do here.

However, Mr. Xuma does offer a three payment plan, which makes the course a little more affordable, and you can get your first 30 days for free to try it out. But still, I’d say a more reasonable price is $97, based on what you get.

The Verdict

Recommended.

This course won’t give you the latest and greatest techniques to pick up girls, like The Art Of Approaching or Double Your Dating will, but it does give you an important aspect of success with women – confidence building.

That said, the reason it doesn’t get a higher rating is because both The Art Of Approaching and Double Your Dating also give you a good fundamental basis for building your confidence, all at a much cheaper price.

However, this course does allow you to go deep int he confidence building process, and it does give you results.

So if you’re looking for that extra edge to get you success with women, Secrets Of The Alpha Man is where you’ll find it.

Click Here To Check Out Secrets Of The Alpha Man

This is definitely an area lots of guys struggle with, and it’s nice to know we have people like Mr. Xuma available to help us learn how to improve our lives.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

Top Product: Double Your Dating

Website: www.doubleyourdating.com
Author: David DeAngelo
Company: David DeAngelo Communications Inc.
Rating: 4 out of 5

Double Your Dating has been around for a while, and it’s generally considered to be the best ebook there is on dating tips for men on the market today. Here is my review of the Double Your Dating eBook.

The Basics
Title: Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women
Length: 90 pages
Adobe PDF Format (compatible with both PCs and Macs)

Table of Contents
Part 1: How To Think About Success With Women
Chapter 1: Women Don’t Make Sense
Chapter 2: How I Discovered What Works With Women

Part 2: How To Communicate With Women
Chapter 3: How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible To Women
Chapter 4: How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women
Chapter 5: On Looks and Body Language

Part 3: Exactly What, When, and How
Chapter 6: The Basics of Style and Class, Plus More On How To Fascinate Women
Chapter 7: Where and How To Meet Women
Chapter 8: Getting Physical
Chapter 9: Keeping Her Attracted To You, Or “How To Have A Long Term Relationship.”

Introduction
Released in 2001, the Double Your Dating ebook is widely considered to be the best dating system for men available on the market. Before Double Your Dating hit the internet, the only options available for men looking to improve their skills with women was a newsgroup, the occasional message board, and hypnosis-based seduction products, none of which were quite acceptable in the mainstream, a trend which Double Your Dating was the first to buck.

David DeAngelo, a former member of the underground “seduction community,” who used to post to the Cliff’s List Seduction Newsletter under the pseudonym Sisonpyh, discarded all other methods being taught at the time and developed his own idea about what attracts women, and encapsulated his findings in this ebook.

His basic philosophy can be boiled down to the now well-accepted notion of “Cocky and Funny,” a phrase David DeAngelo and the success of his ebook and seminars has been able to popularize.

The philosophy behind “Cocky and Funny” is meant to teach men how to play the part of the “Coquette” with women. Coquettes are people who are able to orchestrate a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward – the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power – which always seems to prove elusive; yet this form of “dangling the carrot” in front of their targets only makes women pursue them more.

A Coquette seems totally self-sufficient: they do not need women, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves to be devilishly attractive. Women want to conquer them, but they hold the cards. The strategy of the Coquette is never to offer total satisfaction. The alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette keeps women nipping at their heels.

For most men, the art of being a Coquette is elusive. Before Double Your Dating came along, this skill was either reserved for men who came about this attitude naturally, or men who were abusive assholes. What David DeAngelo did with Double Your Dating was break the art of Coquetting down to a teachable structure that all men could learn to use when dealing with women – something no one else up to that time had been able to do.

The Good
The book is very well-written and professional looking. The font size is normal, so you get a lot of info per page (ie: The font isn’t ballooned up to help fill space and only make the book seem longer than it is). You truly get 90 pages worth of info in this document.

The book is also structured in an easy to read and logical progression. It starts off with a good amount of theory and philosophy, and moves into more concrete techniques designed to teach the reader what to do with women. Compared to the spastic, amateurish, and dis-jointed writing of other seduction products on the market, this book reads like a Godsend. No doubt David DeAngelo had the book edited to read this well.

David DeAngelo also shares a great deal of personal insights and experiences with the reader. One of the best examples of this is found in Chapter 8 of the book, “Getting Physical,” where David D goes into great detail about how he goes from being on a date with a woman to getting down to business (if you know what I mean). This is a great chapter because lots of guys don’t know how to escalate to the physical aspect of a date, but here, David D. shares a first-person example of how he does it in a clear and decisive way. Here’s an example from page 87:

This is a big piece of the puzzle that I’ve figured out… I used to do all kinds of massages and other stuff, but I now use the simple hair stroke test. If they like their hair stroked, they are at VERY LEAST going to be making out with me in short order, period. I’ll occasionally do a hand massage here, or a little neck massage, but next I pull her close to me and cuddle with here… and then land the killer.

Probably the best part of the book is Section 2, which encapsulates the chapters “How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible To Women,” “How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women,” and “On Looks and Body Language.” This entire section, which encompasses about 37 pages of the book, deals with nothing but strategies on how to attract a woman.

David D breaks down the six things he believes women find attractive. They are:

1. Means (wealth, possessions, gifts to them or providing for them)
2. Power (influence, leadership, safety)
3. Fame
4. Looks (including height)
5. Exclusivity (royalty, already married, hard to get, affiliation)
6. Personality (humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique, etc.)

David D. then goes on to focus on the fact that though 1-5 are out of your control for the most part, number 6 is something you do have complete control over and you can use to your advantage when getting women to be attracted to you. He then goes on to break down personality traits that women find the most attractive. They are:

1. Humor
2. Intelligence and Creativity
3. Education
4. Class and Culture
5. Dominant
6. Thoughtfulness
7. Notices Details
8. Predictably Unpredictable
9. Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy
10. Adventurous
11. Aggressive
12. Confident/Cocky
13. Expertise
14. Attention
15. Challenging
16. Charming
17. Romantic Imagination and Perspective
18. Good Body Language
19. Sexual Mastery

With that out of the way, David D goes on to explain how you can combine all these traits into your communication and how that can attract women to you. Here’s an excerpt to give you an idea of what David D recommends:

1. Never give a woman a direct answer… unless the answer is NO. This is a big one. If she says “Can we sit here?” I say “No, let’s sit in this one next to it” or if she says “How do you like my dress?” I say “Well, I think that I like it… just give me a few minutes to see it on you” or if she says “Call me tomorrow” I say “No. You call me tomorrow… common, you want me and you know it” Get it?

2. If she complains about you or doesn’t like something, turn it up a notch and do it more. If she says to me “I don’t really like it when you say that” I say “Well then you might want to leave, because I say it a lot” Get it?

3. Women are CONSTANTLY testing to see if they can get you to comply with them, and as soon as you do, they hit the road (or marry you). This took me years to see and understand, but the fact is that when you’re dealing with a powerful, hot woman, she will do all different kinds of things that make no sense at all logically, but all the sense in the world when you understand her mindset. Hot women can have anything they want. What they want is a challenge… something that keeps their interest. Here it comes… If a woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then WHY THE HLL DO GUYS THINK THAT THEY’RE GOING TO BE INTERESTING BY DOING THE SAME THING THAT EVERY OTHER GUY HAS DONE? Duh. Hey, I used to think this way… but then I got a clue. Now, I pay very careful attention, and never let her have what she wants. If she says “Kiss me” I say “No” if she says come over to my house I say “I’m busy right now, I’ll come over later” if she says “I want you so bad, please make love to me” I say “well, I think you need to wait a little longer, and besides, I’m not finished kissing you” Get it? I NEVER give a woman exactly what she asks for… EVER!

4. Always send mixed signals. Tell her I want to be friends, and kiss her. Tell her that what she just did was unacceptable, then go kiss her. Spank her if she does something nice. Also, respond differently to the same thing. For example, one time if she comes over and sits on my lap, I kiss her. Another time I push her off… get it? Never be predictable… NEVER.

But by far, the best stuff that David DeAngelo has to offer in the book is his material on how to tease women. This is really where Double Your Dating shines. Most guys fall into the trap of supplicating to women and being “too nice.” This will usually land you in the dreaded “let’s just be friends” zone.

But when you know how to properly tease a woman, you are able to create sexual tension in your interaction with her, and the use of Cocky/Funny, alternating between hot and cold, just intensifies that tension before it reaches it’s inevitable outcome.

Here’s an example of how David D likes to tease women:

When I first met one particular girl, I took her hand when she got into the car and held it for a few seconds… then took it away saying “No hand holding this early” as if it were her idea… then at lunch, I put out my hand for her to take it, and then when she went to take it, I moved it before she touched me… then did it again… and again saying “No, really…”

Finally, after the meal was finished, I reached out for her hand and she wouldn’t take mine because I had teased her so much, so I actually grabbed her hand and held it and massaged it. This was teasing and teasing. And then when she finally gave up I gave it to her.

Then, when I gave her a hug later on, she kissed me on the cheek/neck a couple of times and I accused her of kissing me a lot etc. (Idea is that she’s into me and she’s the aggressor). One part of this is me doing something (holding her had) and then accusing her of doing it (“no hand holding this early”).

This kind of behavior, sending mixed messages, and flirting doesn’t really make sense to most men, but to women it’s magic.

David D also places a lot of emphasis on being funny. He’s fond of saying that no matter what shortcomings you have, how ugly you may be, that if you can get a woman to laugh consistently, you’ll get her attracted to you.

He goes into detail on how to be funny around women, along with how your voice should sound, what your body language should be like, and the signs to look for to see if a woman is interested in you. He even goes into a few “Cold Reading” methods as well.

He rounds out the book by detailing how to meet women, and how to keep her attracted to you and have a long term relationship.

The Bad
Though the book does read professionally, there are the occasional grammar mistakes, such as missing words or wrong tenses, but they’re so few and far in between, it’s not that big of a deal, and compared to the atrocious writing in other ebooks, not something to really complain about.

One drawback I found when reading Double Your Dating was that sometimes David’s more philosophical sections got a little hard to read. This may have just been my interest wanning, or my ADD acting up, but I consistently found myself skimming over certain parts to get to some of the meatier techniques he lays out in the book.

There are a few things David espouses that I have found, through personal experience, to be wrong. For instance, in the section of the book that teaches men to be funny, he states:

Don’t smile too much, and don’t laugh at your own jokes very often. When you smile or laugh, it releases the tension. If you can keep a straight face, the joke stays funnier longer.

I’ve found that women like it when you smile. I smile very often around women. Smiling is probably the easiest thing to do to make yourself look attractive and give off a good vibe. To read Double Your Dating, you may come away with the impression that you always want to come off as serious around a woman.

His other philosophy of “never give a woman a direct answer unless it’s no” can also be a real deal breaker. I have had some real bad experiences using this tactic. It might be okay to skirt the answer one or two times, but any more than that and it’s gonna stop being cute to the girl and start getting annoying, to the point where they think you’re hiding something from them (which is not a good thing if you’ve just met the girl). Giving women direct answers won’t be the end of the world. If you want to play around a bit and avoid the question one or two times, that’s fine, but never more than that.

In the book, David D also recommends never asking for a woman’s phone number and going for her email address instead, the idea behind this being that women may be hesitant to give out their numbers, because of the dating stigma attached to it, but that they are cool with giving out their email because it’s not as personal, and that you can have an easier time getting a date through this “under the radar” method.

Personally, I’ve found this method to be hit or miss. I usually have better luck asking for numbers than emails. Sending a girl an email is the equivalent of leaving a voice message on their answering machine. It’s out of your hands and up to her to contact you. Not good. Women who don’t check their email often can sit on that for days and by the time they get to it, they may have forgotten you or lost interest. With the number, you can keep calling without leaving a message and catch them on the phone at your convenience. This isn’t to say email and instant messaging are bad forms of communication, but I tend to look at them as secondary to phone numbers.

I also found the section of the book that deals with approaching women quite light. David D does give some good tactics on meeting women, but if you have a fear of approaching or rejection, you’ll find this chapter to be lacking.

Speaking of chapters that are lacking, the final chapter on relationships is only a mere page and a half long, and doesn’t really go into any detail like he did with the attraction stuff. To be fair, though, Double Your Dating isn’t a book about relationship maintenance, it’s about how to meet women. But a substantial chapter on this subject would have been preferable to the 2 or 3 paragraphs David D throws out at the end of the book.

Also – one of the biggest complaints I have about the course is that when you buy it, you’re encouraged to subscribe to David DeAngelo’s interview series, which is $19.95 per month.

Now, some people may not want to commit to $19.95 a month, but you actually have to tell them you DON’T WANT THIS option when ordering. I found myself buying the product and accidentally ordering it because I didn’t notice the option to opt out.

Not only that, but the interview series David DeAngelo puts out isn’t all that great. He offers very little advice on his own, and the people he interviews more often than not are fakers or lamers who have no business giving advice on the subject.

A lot of the interviews are incredibly boring as well. I would definitely recommend not getting this option if you do get the course.

The Company

David DeAngelo’s company is quite professional. You don’t have to worry about not getting a refund or receiving your product after your order. Their customer support is top notch.

They also have their terms and privacy policy clearly accessible from the front page of their website, which is always a good sign.

The Verdict

Definitely Recommend.

Despite a few short comings here and there, Double Your Dating is a fantastic guide for guys looking to increase their success with women. It really lays out some fantastic inner game concepts and solid attraction techniques. Some guys who have real problems with social interactions may not get as much out of this book as average guys, but then again, it’s not written for them. David DeAngelo wrote this book for the “average guy” who populates the mainstream marketplace.

When you go to a Double Your Dating seminar, you will often see normal looking guys who are just looking to do better with women, rather than pathetic, anti-social virgins you may find at other similar events.

Some people argue that Double Your Dating isn’t a complete system, but the ebook is fairly complete in terms of how to attract a woman to you. It may not be the most detailed book on the subject, but it lays out all the basics in a clear and easy to understand way. If you only buy the ebook, as opposed to the multitude of other products with the Double Your Dating banner attached to them, you’ll get a lot out of it.

I highly recommend this book to anybody who’s looking to improve their social life and meet more women. Especially if you’re just starting out with getting this area of your life under control and you don’t know where to start. Every veteran in the seduction community has the Double Your Dating ebook as part of his collection, and you should too.

You can download the Double Your Dating ebook by clicking on the link below:

Check Out Double Your Dating Here!

I hope you enjoyed this review and found it helpful.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

Top Product: Art Of Approaching

Website: www.artofapproaching.com
Author: Joseph Matthews
Company: Bizlancer Inc.
Rating: 4 1/2 out of 5

By the time I stumbled onto the Art Of Approaching, I had already been scammed a number of times in the Men’s Dating Advice market. I was bitter, angry, and ready to give up.

That’s why it was such a pleasant surprise when I found myself actually ENJOYING a book that was designed to teach me the most important skill a man can acquire – learning how to meet women.

Joseph Matthew’s and his book aren’t really as well known as the materials created by David DeAngelo, Mystery, or Neil Strauss, but in my opinion, Joseph Matthew’s is one of the best teachers for men who want to improve their success with women in the market.

Let me explain why I believe this…

The Instructor

As you might know, I place a lot of importance on the person who is actually teaching me the material. Some fraudulent “pick up gurus” like to use the excuse that it doesn’t matter who’s teaching it as long as you get results.

Well, in my experience, the guys who actually practice what they preach are the ones who can help you the most – because chances are they’ve been where you are and know how to find a solution to your problem. The fakers can’t do this.

And out of all the dating advice gurus I’ve come across, Mr. Matthews is, in my opinion, one of the most legitimate.

Mr. Matthew’s story is an incredible one. He is not a good looking guy by his own admission (I believe he claims to look like the lovechild of Tony Soprano). He’s fat, bald, ugly, and by his own admission “terrible with women.”

One of the first chapters in his book goes on to retell the painful (yet humorous) story of how he had an anxiety attack in college that lead him to the brink of suicide, but rather than kill himself, he resolved to cure his intense loneliness.

Through his teachings, you can tell Mr. Matthews is a very introspectful, honest, and heartfelt guy. He seems to have tackled every problem I’ve personally experienced, and then some – everything from low self esteem to wondering what to do with a girl now that he’s gotten her into bed.

His stories about his successes with women – some of them so attractive, he himself can’t believe he got them – are humorous AND informative.

I couldn’t help but feel like Joseph Matthews is the type of guy I could be friends with, hang out with, and learn from, all at the same time. This alone, makes his teachings far more important than most of the people I’ve come across in this market.

The Course

As its title suggests, in this excellent book Joseph Matthews has created the most complete book on approaching women written to date. As Mr. Matthew’s puts it: If you can’t approach a woman, you can’d do anything else!

Because of it’s focus on how to meet women, this is actually the best way to START learning how to pick up and seduce girls, since it focuses so heavily on that first (and some would argue hardest) step.

But what was surprising to me was that the book was actually much more than just a guide on approaching. It actually covers everything you will need to go beyond the approach and into the bedroom.

The Art of Approaching is now in its 3rd edition (Mr. Matthews seems to update the course regularly to keep it current, something which can’t be said for most other advice authors) and the latest incarnation of the Art Of Approaching goes on to explore:

• The Art of Relationship Skills
• The Art of Belief
• The Art of Body Language
• The Art of Confidence
• The Art of Approaching
• The Art of Dating
• The Art of Flirting
• The Art of Storytelling
• The Art of Being Social
• The Art of Seduction

As you can see, not a single aspect of seduction and pick up is skimped over. I found Mr. Matthew’s chapter on Confidence to be exremely insightful and helpful to me personally, since that’s something I (and Mr. Matthews) has struggled with in the past.

Another fantastic chapter in the book covers the art of flirting. Now, you wouldn’t typically think that flirting would be an important skill to learn, but the way Mr. Matthew’s explains it, if you don’t know how to flirt, you’re going to have a hard time generating attraction!

All this information rounds the book out to a very complete 342 pages.

Despite all the different subjects that are covered, the core of the course is still about approaching women. About 1/3rd of the book is devoted to this subject, and none of it seems like filler.
The book is on the longer side for most seduction e-books I have read, and this could be tough for those of you slow readers or those with short attention spans. But it is a faster read than you might think because Mr. Matthews has written in many personal stories which are both instructional and entertaining at the same time.

(This is SUCH a relief, because even good ebooks, like David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating, can often be very dry and hard to read.)

The fact that the book illustrates so many of its principles through the eyes and experiences of Mr. Matthews himself makes it very unique among the books out there. You get to really understand the personality of the author and I think most readers will empathize with him because he shares the lows he came from when he had no skills with women and was very overweight, to how he overcame these limitations by learning the skills he teaches in the book.

A key message I got was that if Mr. Matthews himself could overcome these limitations, than anyone can by following his example.

But the book is not one dimensional despite this personal perspective, as there are many cool examples of the experiences of students that Mr. Matthews has taught, and what’s more there are many stories relating his own experiences as a student learning from some of the top ladies men in the world like Neil Straus (author of The Game), Mystery, and more.

So when you get The Art of Approaching, you are getting the combined knowledge of not only Mr. Matthews, but other masters as well. Some of what you will learn includes:

• Tons of great opener types like joke, opinion, role play, online, direct, situational, compliment openers and more
• The key questions you must ask yourself to succeed
• An extremely in depth examination of body language, both how to display it and read it
• Secret of eye contact
• Best ways and places to meet women
• The fish and hook method of meeting and seducing women
• The two types of flirting and 11 guidelines for how to flirt effectively, plus the secret weapon of innuendo
• The importance of stories and how to tell great stories
• How to develop a great social network and use it to meet tons of women
• 6 tips for how to influence people and women
• and much more…

What is really cool about all this information in the book is how Mr. Matthews ties it all together in stories of his own conquests. The final chapter of the book ties all of what you learn together in the personal story of how he seduces a beautiful model from New York and finally seals the deal when she comes to LA and visits him.

All throughout the book you get the sense that you are reading something by someone who really knows what he is talking about and has devoted a lot of time not just to learning the techniques, but the philosophy behind it all.

There are points in the book where Mr. Matthews goes back hundreds of years to explain how and why women were prized for their virginity and how that still effects their behavior presently, and also talks about how religion has shaped things in the way we think that aren’t very useful for doing well with women and should be questioned, etc.

Overall, this was the ONE book I was impressed with the most.

The Company

I also found the way Mr. Matthews does business to be quite honest and above the board.

I had no issues downloading the course after the purchase, but my friend Bill had a problem with his connection. When we contacted support – easily accessible through a “contact us” link on the front page – we got a reply within the first 12 hours from his customer support staff helping us get Bill his product.

We even went back and “pretended” we lost the course in a computer crash to see how this would be handled by the company. Customer Support immediately gave us access to the course again after supplying our order information. It’s nice to know that if anything ever got screwed up, we could still get access to the course.

Refunds were handled promptly as well. Yes, even though I did enjoy the book and thought it was great, I still asked for a refund just to test and see how it was handled. Fortuneately, The Art Of Approaching staff seems to think it’s best to give people their money back when they ask for it. Always a nice touch.

The company clearly states their terms of service and privacy policy, so should you ever want to know where the company stands, you can find out.

Over-all, the way Mr. Matthews conducts business seems to be quite professional.

The Bad

Though I do enjoy this course and this company, there are a few things that nagged me enough not to give it a full rating of 5 stars.

The first is that you get a LOT of email from Mr. Matthews, who sends out a newsletter twice daily. This can get annoying after a while, but the content of the newsletters is good and always helpful. However, after getting the course, I didn’t feel I needed all the tips and didn’t like seeing my inbox clogged up. You can, however, easily unsubscribe from the emails. But still, it’s annoying.

I also found a few type-os in the book. Nothing too bad, it still reads well and has a professional appearance, but it’s a minor annoyance of mine.

The size of the book is also worrisome, because reading such a long book on the computer can be troublesome at times. You are able to print it out for easy reading without issue, however 300+ pages is a lot of printer inc. I wish Mr. Matthews gave the option of receiving a physical book. But again, this is a minor annoyance.

The Verdict

This is a MUST have course.

During my tests, and the tests of my friends Bill and Larry who help me evaluate these courses, we got the best results from Mr. Matthew’s teachings.

Following his “Bootcamp” instructions laid out in the course, we went from meeting 1-2 girls a night to meeting 12-15. Not all the approaches went well, but they became easier than they had been in the past.

Before long, all three of us got enough confidence to start getting phone numbers of the girls we were meeting and actually getting them out on dates.

After struggling for MONTHS with other courses, this was like a breath of fresh air for all three of us. Going out to meet chicks actually became FUN once we started applying what we learned in the Art Of Approaching.

Using the lines laid out in the course will get you results, but the best results come from doing the confidence building exercises laid out by Mr. Matthews, to help you meet and date the women you desire.

I would also recommend getting the Advanced course if you can afford it. The basic course is $39.95, but the Advanced course is a bit pricey ($147). But it has a lot more supplemental material that is worth getting – including video tutorials that explain some of Mr. Matthew’s more advanced concepts.

That said, the advanced course isn’t necessary to get results. Even just getting the basic course is worth the money. But I got a lot more out of Mr. Matthew’s advanced tactics.

If you would like to check out The Art Of Approaching yourself, click the link below:

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If you yourself aren’t getting the kind of results you want with women, and in specific if you want to improve your ability to approach them effectively, then you owe it to yourself to check out this great course.

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Stay safe,

Jim Jones

SCAM: PUATraining

Website: www.puatraining.com
Author: Richard La Ruina (Gambler)
Company: PUA Training Limited
Rating: SCAM! AVoid At All Costs!

PUATraining is a workshop and product distributor based out of the UK. They are relatively “new” on the Seduction scene, but already, their “shady” business practices are already making waves.

Most of the criticism is directed at the company’s head, Richard La Ruina, otherwise known by his nickname “Gambler.”

Most of the criticism of the company stems from the fact that people claim Gambler is a “fake,” another so-called “pick up guru” who can’t get women himself.

Apparently, Mr. Ruina is a pretty good looking guy, but his personality is such that he turns women off. Many people, reportedly close to Mr. Ruina, claim that he doesn’t practice what he preaches, and he is pretty much in business for the sake of making money only.

In addition to that – as with all cases where the guru is a faker – a great deal of the products PUATraining sells are re-packaged and re-hashed material from other, better, pick up instructors.

In my experience buying PUATraining courses, the exact same information can be found from teachers like Mystery, Neil Strauss, David DeAngelo, and others.

Nothing PUATraining teaches is new or original. It’s just re-packaged from other sources (and in each case, you’d be better off going directly to the source of the original material.)

Not only that, but PUATraining has been harshly criticized by many merchants for stealing articles witten by other dating advice coaches, and changing them to appear as though they came from the company.

In once instance, a website “sponsored” by PUATraining used the articles of other companies to link back to the PUATraining site, in an effort to raise it’s ranking in the search engines, violating copyright law.

PUATraining is also a workshop business, and in many cases, they have recieved criticism from students about instructors who have no business teaching people how to get chicks because they themselves can’t. (This is a common problem with workshop companies)

There is only one instance, where one of their instructors – a man by the name of Adam Lyons – consistently gets good reviews, which are displayed prominently in PUATraining’s marketing material. However, from what I understand, Adam Lyons is a freelancer and not actually employed by PUATraining.

All this leads my to give PUATraining a heavy SCAM ranking.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!!!

The company on the whole seems on the level, however the man in charge and the products they sell reek of FRAUD. Don’t waste

your time. Instead, check out the only three dating advice

products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

SCAM: Speed Seduction

Website: www.speed-seduction.net
Author: Ross Jeffries
Company: Ghita Inc.
Rating: SCAM! Avoid At All Costs!!!!

Speed Seduction is one of the earliest incarnations of dating advice for men to be found on the internet. Since the early 90’s, creator Ross Jeffries has been going on talk shows and doing interviews to try and get unsuspecting men to sign up for his courses.

Now, to be fair, everything we’ve seen about how Ross Jeffries does business is on the level. Products get shipped out in a timely fashion, customer support is easily accessible, and refunds are made in a timely fashion.

In one case, a product I ordered had a mis-labeled disk in it, which was actually a repeat of a different disk in the series. When I called up to complain and report the issue, I was sent out a new replacement disk immediately.

So the fault in Speed Seduction isn’t in the way Mr. Jeffries conducts business, rather it’s in the information he chooses to sell.

The concept behind Speed Seduction is that you can use a science called Neuro Linguistic Programming to “hypnotize” a woman into feeling attraction for you and getting her into bed.

You use pre-designed hypnotic routines, weasel phrases, anchors, modalities, and a bunch of other gobbely-gook to achieve this goal.

First off – the production value on all of Speed Seduction’s materials is rather amateurish. Some of it was recorded in a garage in the early 90’s, and it sounds like it.

The technology behind Neuro Linguistic Programming (or NLP) seems sound enough. It’s about structuring your language patters to evoke specific emotional responses from your subjects.

Unfortuneately, when it comes to dating, it just doesn’t work.

On a wide scale, everyone who has used Speed Seduction to attract women have reported untold problems and outright failures when using the method.

Top students, students who had claimed to have gotten it to work in the past, now deride the method as being “too complicated” and “not effective enough,” and have moved on to better systems of seduction.

Average and intermediate students report to have great difficulties getting the system to work at all. Complaints of “too much memorization” abound, since the whole endeavor centers around regurgitating awkward routines which are supposed to hypnotize a girl.

(And trust me, some of these routines are loooong.)

Not only that, but you get a lot of really lame subversive attempts to embed hypnotic commends with women. Like saying things such as:

“My best ideas come from above me, but sometimes they come from b-low me.” (Mispronounce below as “blow” and then point at your penis).

Indeed, in addition to all the outright criticism of Speed Seduction itself, it’s creator, Ross Jeffries, is surrounded in so much controversy, he alone is reason enough to stay away from his method.

There are numerous reports floating around that Ross Jeffries can’t even get his system to work for himself, and he resorts to either “acting gay” or outright embarrassing stunts to get the attention of women. One report has him getting on all fours and acting like a dog to sniff a woman’s butt at a club.

He’s also been accused of relying on hookers for female companionship by former friends, claiming they never see him with a girl he’s not paying for. Whether this is true or not, I can’t verify, but the last thing I want to do is learn how to get chicks from a guy who relies on hookers for companionship.

Other students, who have paid to be hypnotized by Ross Jeffries personally, report great dissatisfaction with the end result. In one case, a student reports “It did nothing and was a waste of money,” and in another case, a student claims “I left feeling more messed up than I did when I went in.”

Ross Jeffries likes to try and deflect any criticism about his success with women (which he is constantly challenged on) by claiming it doesn’t matter what kind of success he has, that he’s a good teacher of the material. However, the material itself is flawed, and who wants to learn from a man who can’t make his system work for himself?

Ross has also been widely criticized for trying to inject elements of his own “religion” into his system, telling students to rely on “huna”, “metaphysics”, and “energy manipulation” to get women attracted to them.

Obviously, a great deal of this methodology is complete, outright B.S. Claims that Ross Jeffries wants his students to see him as some type of “cult leader” abound, and it’s not hard to believe based on what I’m seeing here.

Not only that, but a great deal of Ross Jeffries marketing materials are blatantly false and misleading. Ross Jeffries himself admits to this while on the Dr. Phil show. During the show, one woman exclaimed she felt extremely “creeped out” by him. (Not exactly what you want to hear with a teacher of seduction.)

You can see Mr. Jeffries admit his false advertising on the Dr. Phil video here.

In the same video, you can see him lie about what he teaches. He claims he’s not teaching guys how to hypnotize women, when all his sales material (and even his course material) says otherwise.

In my personal test with Speed Seduction, I met with very poor results. The hypnotic patterns and language structure taught in the course does not go with how normal people talk at all, and it comes out as awkward.

Often times, you’re just looking for some opportunity to recite one of the patterns you spent hours learning. And when you do, they never work as they are supposed to. Typically, the girl’s reaction is akin to “Yeah, whatever,” and then she moves on.

When trying to do the proper voice tone and inflection (ie: they “hypno-voice” taught in the course), I had one girl ask me why I was talking so weird.

The use of Speed Seduction turned otherwise regular interactions with girls into something creepy and unnatural. I actually felt BAD about using these methods on girls, and even worse when I saw they got no result and I had basically blown a chance with a chick by using something so stupid to try and “seduce” her.

Can Speed Seduction work? Probably. There are reports of students getting it to do what it’s supposed to. But most of these students also claim to had to create and memorize upwards of 300 hypnotic routines to do so. This is a situation where you just bombard the woman into sleeping with you.

In addition to that, there are reports of “high buyers remorse” from women who do fall for Speed Seduction tactics. Numerous “successful” students talk about how they lose a girl after the initial lay because she was weirded out by the experience. Critics of Speed Seduction claim that when you use NLP to bypass a girl’s critical factors to get her to sleep with you, they will flare up once the deed is done and judge you harshly. So even by getting her into bed, you lose her in the long run.

All this goes towards me giving this system the SCAM stamp.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The information might work, but there are better systems out there. Cheaper, more effective systems (the basic Speed Seduction Course runs upwards of $250!). Don’t waste your time with this hocus pocus. Instead, check out the only three dating advice

products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

Top 5 Dating Mistakes For Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

When you think of “dating” a woman, you probably think of “dinner and a movie,” am I right?

You go out and doing things with the woman while you get to know her.

Well, what if I told you that you had the completely WRONG idea about dating?

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1: Dates are only to make a good impression.

Often men might feel like they have something to prove while on a date, to get the woman to like them. They seem to think that taking a woman to some fancy and memorable place and bragging about their accomplishments makes them seem important.

Mistake #2: You can buy the love of a woman.

Sadly, many men think that if they spend enough money on a woman, they can get her to sleep with them. This is always (and has always been) a bad idea. Aside from the gold diggers in the world, most women don’t care how much you’re spending on a date.

Mistake #3: Activities are meaningless!

Since spending time together does not equal a romantic interest, going out with someone does not mean as much as you would think it does, therefore, doing the dinner and a movie date, does not mean the girl will be attracted to you.

Mistake #4: Sabotaging yourself with boredom!

A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.

Mistake #5: Guys follow a pattern of failure.

Some men have a preconceived ideal of dating, how they think things should happen, and then they rigidly follow that perception. They may go out on a dinner date, while they ask her all the same questions as their other dates. This eliminates all the spontaneous fun of interacting with the woman.

So what does it mean to date a woman?

It is simply really, dating builds attractions by strengthening emotional connections and building comfort.

See, it doesn’t matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you’re able to connect to the woman you’re with and what you can make her feel about you.

That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.

Your entire focus while dating a girl should be “how can I become more emotionally connected to this girl?”

Consider talking about your passions and shared interests, this will aid you in determining what hopes and dreams she holds dear.

Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”

Above all, you should just have fun and enjoy yourself!

Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.

Above all, do not be to shy to bring up romance.

Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that.

Joke about sex. Flirt with her. Be a little wicked. Girls like this, and if you DON’T do it, you won’t be able to build enough attraction to take things to the next level.

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Dating Advice for Christian Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

Naturally, we strive to remain true in our beliefs. For some Christian men, it is vital that their experience of love stay within the boundaries of their church.

These boundaries include sex and marriage.

Whether we follow it or not, there are validities of free will choices at work here and it is not for us to judge this belief.

Ancient cultures used to believe that when partaking in sex, a part of the other person’s soul would mingle with yours, and that you’d carry that person around with you for the rest of your life.

In some respects, this is true. So the doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

It is truly a difficult union for anyone who is married and incompatible therefore, sex is important.

These few outlooks are especially for men who face the challenge of mixing faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Our faith is meant to guide us through life. Because of this, it is very important to be clear on what it is you believe.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Be aware that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

Learn to be proactive in finding the right woman for you.

Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting to know them – this is not just stuff that happens. We have to MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the path God has set out for us, because our actions are based on what we believe.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost – the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

You might be tempted to place a woman on a pedestal when your faith places sex as so important.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

Being human, we share similar characteristics. We must learn to love the reality of women rather than idealizing them.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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Pick Up Lines To Start A Conversation

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Some pick up lines are just terrible.

When have you heard some of the cheesiest of pick up lines like the following…

“Nice shoes. Wanna bang?”

“Your name must be Gillet, because you’re the best a man can get.”

“Did you wash your pants with windex? Because I can see myself in them.”

Let’s face it – if you use lines like these on a girl, she’s not going to give you the time of day.

Because pick of lines such as these, which are bad get too much attention, while encouraging others to consider that all pick up lines are worthless.

This simply is not true.

A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.

Understand: The whole point of using a pick up line is to get a conversation started.

That is all.

Once you get the girl talking with you, then you can work your magic and do what you need to do to get the date, the phone number, or the make-out.

Remember, if you do not begin a conversation, you cannot do much more.

Because you shouldn’t just be talking to a girl. You should be ENGAGING the girl. Pulling her into a conversation with you is the only sure-fire way to further your agenda.

Do you know that good pick up lines do just that?

Do you know that when most men meet women they are at a loss for words to begin talking to a woman? They try to think of something off the top of their head, while often missing the opportunity of meeting a nice woman, before they can think of something to say.

This is why you should know a couple of good working pick up lines. Situations like these may hinder you from being original and you need something to help you get the ball rolling.

Keep in mind that women are wise; never use these types of pick up lines, since they get you nowhere at all.

“Do I know you from somewhere?”

All women know this to be a lame pick up line. You might think you’re being clever when you say this, but you’re not.

Other unimpressive pick up lines include complimenting a woman on her clothing, asking for directions and telling her she looks like a movie star.

Why is this?

This is because these lines do not engage the woman into a conversation with you, once she answers your question, she may not show interest in conversing with you.

Avoid pick up lines that have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to think about her reply, while inducing an emotional reaction, which encourages her to continue talking with you.

So how do you engage a girl?

Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.

Good pick up lines work like this, for example. Say something to the woman, like this, Hi, I need you opinion on something, do you think it is normal for a woman to try to time a pregnancy so that her baby is born within a particular zodiac sign? I would really like to hear the opinion of a woman about this subject.

Once you engage her in the conversation you may follow up with a tale of some woman who wants to be sure she and her children are astrologically compatible, to make life a bit more enjoyable as life moves along.

This leads to all kinds of different conversation topics, things like:

1. Relationships 2. Astrology 3. Marriage 4. Pregnancy 5. Children

The places you can go with this type of line are limitless. Here are some of my favorite follow-ups.

“Are you a believer in astrology?” (This can begin conversations about destiny and fate.)

“What is your zodiac sign?” (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility – as a general rule, no matter what your sign is – you are compatible!)

“Are you fond of children? You seem very nurturing.”

I could go on, but you should get the idea.

The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.

This is how you begin conversations.

From that point, it should be rather easy to ask her for a telephone number and possibly set up a first date.

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How To Generate Attraction – No Matter Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

They could be too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract women.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

How is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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Meet Women Secrets

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

In case you’ve ever wanted one, here’s a sure-fire, step-by-step guide any man can use to make meeting women fun and easy!

Let me ask you a question…

(And be honest now, otherwise I won’t be able to help you!)

Do you find meeting women difficult? Is your fear keeping you from taking the actions you need to meet women, and causing you to feel lonely and helpless?

If that’s the case, don’t sweat it. I’m going to share with you some killer tidbits of advice that you can start using right away to meet some great women, and help you overcome your fear and take control of your love life!

Meeting women should be a piece of cake. After all, that’s what you’re biologically programmed for, right?

Wrong.

No matter what you believe, men are not born with the skills of how to meet and attract women. (Trust me, I wish that WAS the case, but it’s not!)

How to meet women is something you LEARN.

You have to LEARN how to talk to women, just like you have to learn how to speak out loud, or walk, or do math.

This is a SKILL. Skills don’t come naturally, they have to be learned!

So if you currently don’t know how to meet women, don’t worry, there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t learned enough to make meeting women something that’s comfortable and easy yet.

Sadly, there are tons and tons of men out there who are too afraid to meet women, and because of that they stay home alone over the weekend when they should be out meeting girls. And even worse – most of these guys will never do anything to overcome this fear.

This is because they underestimate the power that this fear has on their lives! And they justify this fear of meeting women by focusing on all of the bad things that could happen.

There are some guys out there who have such low self-esteem that they think every girl they approach will either reject them, laugh in their face, or insult them right off the bat. Maybe they’re afraid of being publicly embarrassed, or the slim possibility the girl has a jealous boyfriend who will beat them up!

Do you ever think of these as possibilities before you meet a girl? Because if you do, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to be scared and take no action to meet women.

In short: You are practicing FAILURE.

Look – truth be told, most of these fears you have hardly EVER happen in reality!

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

However, there are men out there who grew up with the good fortune to have POSITIVE experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences gave them a better outlook about what is possible and set them up for success with women as they matured.

Even if you didn’t have the best experiences as you were developing, it’s not too late to take control of your love life and overcome your irrational fears about meeting women. Just because you weren’t an “early bloomer,” doesn’t mean you still can’t become a real ladies man!

What you need to start doing right now is re-learn how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to re-examine your current beliefs and attitudes that might be holding you back from success and change them to make meeting women easier.

But that’s difficult for most guys to do. It’s no problem to say you want to learn how to meet women easily, but it’s doing the work that’s the hardest part. You need to want it badly enough!

You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”

When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, just start talking to her, even if you don’t know what to say.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about – ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s doing.

At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?

Don’t get hung up on what you’re going to say, just go over and talk to her. Don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Make the decision to act and follow through. (If you need to, memorize a few interesting stories about your life if you need something to talk about.)

You can be a winner even if you don’t win the girl over. Obviously, if you get her phone number or a date with her later on, you’ve won something big! But if you only get a girl to smile whom you thought was out of your league, you’ve also won big. And you’ll also win just by knowing that you’re not going to wonder later on what would have happened if you had actually tried to meet that girl.

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