Top 5 Dating Mistakes For Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

When you think of “dating” a woman, you probably think of “dinner and a movie,” am I right?

You go out and doing things with the woman while you get to know her.

Well, what if I told you that you had the completely WRONG idea about dating?

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1: Dates are only to make a good impression.

Often men might feel like they have something to prove while on a date, to get the woman to like them. They seem to think that taking a woman to some fancy and memorable place and bragging about their accomplishments makes them seem important.

Mistake #2: You can buy the love of a woman.

Sadly, many men think that if they spend enough money on a woman, they can get her to sleep with them. This is always (and has always been) a bad idea. Aside from the gold diggers in the world, most women don’t care how much you’re spending on a date.

Mistake #3: Activities are meaningless!

Since spending time together does not equal a romantic interest, going out with someone does not mean as much as you would think it does, therefore, doing the dinner and a movie date, does not mean the girl will be attracted to you.

Mistake #4: Sabotaging yourself with boredom!

A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.

Mistake #5: Guys follow a pattern of failure.

Some men have a preconceived ideal of dating, how they think things should happen, and then they rigidly follow that perception. They may go out on a dinner date, while they ask her all the same questions as their other dates. This eliminates all the spontaneous fun of interacting with the woman.

So what does it mean to date a woman?

It is simply really, dating builds attractions by strengthening emotional connections and building comfort.

See, it doesn’t matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you’re able to connect to the woman you’re with and what you can make her feel about you.

That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.

Your entire focus while dating a girl should be “how can I become more emotionally connected to this girl?”

Consider talking about your passions and shared interests, this will aid you in determining what hopes and dreams she holds dear.

Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”

Above all, you should just have fun and enjoy yourself!

Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.

Above all, do not be to shy to bring up romance.

Although many men shy away from approaching the subject of relationships while on a date, you should build the intensity of attraction by building toward that.

Joke about sex. Flirt with her. Be a little wicked. Girls like this, and if you DON’T do it, you won’t be able to build enough attraction to take things to the next level.

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Dating Advice for Christian Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

Naturally, we strive to remain true in our beliefs. For some Christian men, it is vital that their experience of love stay within the boundaries of their church.

These boundaries include sex and marriage.

Whether we follow it or not, there are validities of free will choices at work here and it is not for us to judge this belief.

Ancient cultures used to believe that when partaking in sex, a part of the other person’s soul would mingle with yours, and that you’d carry that person around with you for the rest of your life.

In some respects, this is true. So the doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

It is truly a difficult union for anyone who is married and incompatible therefore, sex is important.

These few outlooks are especially for men who face the challenge of mixing faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Our faith is meant to guide us through life. Because of this, it is very important to be clear on what it is you believe.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Be aware that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

Learn to be proactive in finding the right woman for you.

Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting to know them – this is not just stuff that happens. We have to MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the path God has set out for us, because our actions are based on what we believe.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost – the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

You might be tempted to place a woman on a pedestal when your faith places sex as so important.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

Being human, we share similar characteristics. We must learn to love the reality of women rather than idealizing them.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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Pick Up Lines To Start A Conversation

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Some pick up lines are just terrible.

When have you heard some of the cheesiest of pick up lines like the following…

“Nice shoes. Wanna bang?”

“Your name must be Gillet, because you’re the best a man can get.”

“Did you wash your pants with windex? Because I can see myself in them.”

Let’s face it – if you use lines like these on a girl, she’s not going to give you the time of day.

Because pick of lines such as these, which are bad get too much attention, while encouraging others to consider that all pick up lines are worthless.

This simply is not true.

A good pick up line will ACTUALLY help you pick up a woman.

Understand: The whole point of using a pick up line is to get a conversation started.

That is all.

Once you get the girl talking with you, then you can work your magic and do what you need to do to get the date, the phone number, or the make-out.

Remember, if you do not begin a conversation, you cannot do much more.

Because you shouldn’t just be talking to a girl. You should be ENGAGING the girl. Pulling her into a conversation with you is the only sure-fire way to further your agenda.

Do you know that good pick up lines do just that?

Do you know that when most men meet women they are at a loss for words to begin talking to a woman? They try to think of something off the top of their head, while often missing the opportunity of meeting a nice woman, before they can think of something to say.

This is why you should know a couple of good working pick up lines. Situations like these may hinder you from being original and you need something to help you get the ball rolling.

Keep in mind that women are wise; never use these types of pick up lines, since they get you nowhere at all.

“Do I know you from somewhere?”

All women know this to be a lame pick up line. You might think you’re being clever when you say this, but you’re not.

Other unimpressive pick up lines include complimenting a woman on her clothing, asking for directions and telling her she looks like a movie star.

Why is this?

This is because these lines do not engage the woman into a conversation with you, once she answers your question, she may not show interest in conversing with you.

Avoid pick up lines that have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to think about her reply, while inducing an emotional reaction, which encourages her to continue talking with you.

So how do you engage a girl?

Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.

Good pick up lines work like this, for example. Say something to the woman, like this, Hi, I need you opinion on something, do you think it is normal for a woman to try to time a pregnancy so that her baby is born within a particular zodiac sign? I would really like to hear the opinion of a woman about this subject.

Once you engage her in the conversation you may follow up with a tale of some woman who wants to be sure she and her children are astrologically compatible, to make life a bit more enjoyable as life moves along.

This leads to all kinds of different conversation topics, things like:

1. Relationships 2. Astrology 3. Marriage 4. Pregnancy 5. Children

The places you can go with this type of line are limitless. Here are some of my favorite follow-ups.

“Are you a believer in astrology?” (This can begin conversations about destiny and fate.)

“What is your zodiac sign?” (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility – as a general rule, no matter what your sign is – you are compatible!)

“Are you fond of children? You seem very nurturing.”

I could go on, but you should get the idea.

The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.

This is how you begin conversations.

From that point, it should be rather easy to ask her for a telephone number and possibly set up a first date.

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How To Generate Attraction – No Matter Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

They could be too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract women.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

How is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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Meet Women Secrets

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

In case you’ve ever wanted one, here’s a sure-fire, step-by-step guide any man can use to make meeting women fun and easy!

Let me ask you a question…

(And be honest now, otherwise I won’t be able to help you!)

Do you find meeting women difficult? Is your fear keeping you from taking the actions you need to meet women, and causing you to feel lonely and helpless?

If that’s the case, don’t sweat it. I’m going to share with you some killer tidbits of advice that you can start using right away to meet some great women, and help you overcome your fear and take control of your love life!

Meeting women should be a piece of cake. After all, that’s what you’re biologically programmed for, right?

Wrong.

No matter what you believe, men are not born with the skills of how to meet and attract women. (Trust me, I wish that WAS the case, but it’s not!)

How to meet women is something you LEARN.

You have to LEARN how to talk to women, just like you have to learn how to speak out loud, or walk, or do math.

This is a SKILL. Skills don’t come naturally, they have to be learned!

So if you currently don’t know how to meet women, don’t worry, there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t learned enough to make meeting women something that’s comfortable and easy yet.

Sadly, there are tons and tons of men out there who are too afraid to meet women, and because of that they stay home alone over the weekend when they should be out meeting girls. And even worse – most of these guys will never do anything to overcome this fear.

This is because they underestimate the power that this fear has on their lives! And they justify this fear of meeting women by focusing on all of the bad things that could happen.

There are some guys out there who have such low self-esteem that they think every girl they approach will either reject them, laugh in their face, or insult them right off the bat. Maybe they’re afraid of being publicly embarrassed, or the slim possibility the girl has a jealous boyfriend who will beat them up!

Do you ever think of these as possibilities before you meet a girl? Because if you do, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to be scared and take no action to meet women.

In short: You are practicing FAILURE.

Look – truth be told, most of these fears you have hardly EVER happen in reality!

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

However, there are men out there who grew up with the good fortune to have POSITIVE experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences gave them a better outlook about what is possible and set them up for success with women as they matured.

Even if you didn’t have the best experiences as you were developing, it’s not too late to take control of your love life and overcome your irrational fears about meeting women. Just because you weren’t an “early bloomer,” doesn’t mean you still can’t become a real ladies man!

What you need to start doing right now is re-learn how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to re-examine your current beliefs and attitudes that might be holding you back from success and change them to make meeting women easier.

But that’s difficult for most guys to do. It’s no problem to say you want to learn how to meet women easily, but it’s doing the work that’s the hardest part. You need to want it badly enough!

You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”

When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, just start talking to her, even if you don’t know what to say.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about – ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s doing.

At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?

Don’t get hung up on what you’re going to say, just go over and talk to her. Don’t give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Make the decision to act and follow through. (If you need to, memorize a few interesting stories about your life if you need something to talk about.)

You can be a winner even if you don’t win the girl over. Obviously, if you get her phone number or a date with her later on, you’ve won something big! But if you only get a girl to smile whom you thought was out of your league, you’ve also won big. And you’ll also win just by knowing that you’re not going to wonder later on what would have happened if you had actually tried to meet that girl.

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How To Approach Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams…

You have to know how to approach a girl in the right manner if you want to have success with your pickup. The following are some proven tips I’d recommend you do to help you be successful in meeting women!

Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?

It wasn’t anything you were about to say, or even your intentions. She might have really liked you if you approached her in a different way. But once you freak out a girl, it’s not easy to turn that situation around.

The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.

This is known as “coming in under the radar.”

You have to understand that most attractive women get hit on CONSTANTLY, so they’ve trained themselves to simply reject guys at the first sign they’re out to pick them up.

Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”

But despite all this, the girl WILL be receptive to you if you know how to approach her in the RIGHT WAY.

So what’s the right way to approach a woman?

First of all – DO NOT HESITATE.

Waiting too long before you approach a woman will give you a chance to talk yourself out of meeting her. You need to overcome your fear and approach quickly when the opportunity presents itself.

Another tip – know what to say BEFORE you approach a woman! Meeting women becomes so much easier when you don’t have to waste time thinking of what to say to her to start a conversation.

So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.

Now, when I use the term “pick up line,” I don’t mean the “Nice shirt, want to have sex?” type of line that’ll get you slapped in the face. Remember, you need to be NON-THREATENING!

Great pick up lines simply engage women in innocent conversation. So asking her opinion on something and then talking about it is always preferable to a sleazy or funny line that you’ve seen on TV.

Another thing – when you are approaching women, don’t charge in like you’re going to war. Approach them from an angle. This is less confrontational and will subconsciously put the woman you are engaging more at ease.

Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls!

If you’re not comfortable approaching women, the best way to overcome it is to go out there and start approaching women right away! After all, practice makes perfect, right?

Let me tell you – getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! You actually have to DO it so you can build your level of experience. (Trust me, it gets easier the more you do it).

Don’t be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You’re not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!

That’s all!

This is a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the easier it is. See how many you can talk to in a day and keep trying to beat your score.

The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.

Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you’re talking to, because she won’t feel that she’s committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you’re only a momentary “distraction.” This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.

Don’t worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you’re able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend, and possibly even a future wife.

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Pickup Artist Secrets Revealed – How To Pick Up Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Are you struggling when it comes to finding, meeting, and picking up women? If so, here are some guidelines to help you succeed in finding the women of your dreams!

Are you looking to start picking up women, but clueless about where to start?

Most of your friends probably don’t know how to pick up women. Your dad probably doesn’t know (and lord knows your mom couldn’t tell you)! Even the dating “experts” that you see in the media wouldn’t be able to give you the proper tactics on how to pick up women, because if they did – they’d never be able to appear on TV again! (Let’s face it, the mainstream media is extremely feminist and looks down upon anything that could help guys get laid!).

Bottom line: Picking up women is not a politically-correct topic!

If you want to have success with women TONIGHT, you’re going to have to follow some practical advice that works right away. Lucky for you, I’m about to share some with you right now…

Let me first tell you what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to look like a “male model.”

This is a huge mistake that almost all men make. Little do they realize that close to 85% of women place more importance on how a man makes them FEEL as opposed to how he actually LOOKS.

So if you’re insecure about your looks, don’t sweat it! There’s still hope.

Another thing is – you DON’T need to spend lots of cash or drive flashy cars!

Quite a few of the best Pickup Artists I’ve ever known spend $30 or less when they go out on dates, and more than one of them doesn’t even own a car! (And the ones that do don’t drive anything special!)

If a girl really likes you, she’s not going to care how much money you make or spend on her. And the key to picking up women is to get them to like you, right?

Lastly, you DON’T need big muscles, be a certain nationality or ethnicity, be famous, or any other things you can think of.

Understand: Personality trumps every other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you!

If you know the proper way to interact with women, nothing else matters.

Unless you’re currently a master pickup artist, you may not have a whole lot of success with women right away when using these tactics – after all, it takes time to practice and learn from your experiences. But if you actually apply what you’ve learned, you’ll soon find your success with women will skyrocket!

Go out as often as you’re able to and talk to as many women as you can, especially when you’re starting out. You don’t have to go to high-pressure environments like nightclubs where it’s difficult to pick up women, but there is no better “practice ground” in my opinion, simply because there are SO MANY women out there to pick up.

But regardless, make a point of going out to pick up women a certain number of times a week – after all, practice makes perfect!

When you’re first starting, you might not have a whole lot of success with the ladies. But over time, as your experience builds, your confidence will grow. Every success and failure you have is a learning experience meant to make you better at picking up women.

Remember: With Experience Comes MASTERY.

And what you’re doing when you go out to clubs and bars to pick up women is gaining experience!

When you do go out to gain this valuable experience with the ladies, try and look as good as you possibly can!

(Notice I didn’t say “good looking.” I said “look good.” There’s a difference. You can’t control what you look like, but you CAN control your appearance – your hair, your tan, your clothes, etc.)

Take the time to dress as nice as you can. Find clothes that look good on you and tailor them to fit. If you’re not into fashion and don’t know where to start, ask a female friend who’s very fashion conscious to help you find the right types of clothes.

Keep in mind – you don’t NEED to dress nicely to meet women, but it will make it much easier on yourself if you do! Not only that, but the better you look, the more confident you’ll feel.

Keep an out out for every opportunity to pick up women that comes your way. Attractive women are just about everywhere, and if you notice an opportunity to talk to one, don’t let it pass you by!

Remember – ever good pickup follows a very simple structure. This means there’s a series of steps to picking up women you can actually repeat time and time again and get the same results.

This structure is as follows:

Find a girl.

Meet her.

Talk and Gain Rapport.

Build Attraction.

There you go – four simple steps is all you need! If you can find, meet, and gain rapport with women, you’ll find that you can build attraction with them easily.

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Flirting Advice For Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Site: www.artofapproaching.com

I would like to ask you a question.

Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?

Well, there is a reason that happened!

More than likely you did know how to flirt with her properly.

You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.

What is the importance of flirting?

The answer is simple: Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!

When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.

Yes, that is right; it makes you simply a friend.

So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.

And the secret is – flirting isn’t really as hard as many people think. In fact, it can be a lot of fun. The only time flirting doesn’t work is when it’s done WRONG.

Flirting with a woman is an art form. Flirting is the ability to communicate the romantic interest you have for a woman, while being subtle about the subject.

These are mixed signals.

You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.

Some of the more common mistakes of flirting with women that men make may include:

MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious

Too many guys get excited about the women they are attracted to, and will come out and say exactly what they are feeling. What they don’t realize is that when presented with this information, the girl is then forced to make a judgment, right then and there, about how she feels about THEM.

You must lay the proper groundwork ahead of time, so you can avoid rejection.

MISTAKE #2: They Aren’t Obvious Enough!

If you make no effort to communicate your interest, yet think the woman will just know what you feel, when you do make a move it surprises the woman, because up until that point she has no idea of your interest.

MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions

Flirting has a good deal to do with the words you use; however, non-verbal body language is a more powerful method. These are those little things such as, tilting your head, raising an eyebrow or casting a wicked little smile, since they give new meaning to otherwise innocent remarks.

MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously

Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.

If you’re not having fun when flirting – and more importantly, if the girl isn’t having fun – then you are doing something WRONG.

We could list more mistakes; however, this should provide you with a clear picture. Do you wonder what the right way to begin flirting is?

Use as much innuendo as you can while you are flirting, however the secret is in keeping it subtle.

So for instance, if you’re at a bar, and the girl you’re with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you’d like something, you could jokingly say – “You’re not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?” (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)

This lets her know you are interested without saying it outright. Flirting is implication and it is fun and lighthearted.

Another example may be, when a woman makes a sexy remark, you say to her, Stop trying to tempt me, you vixen, you know I never kiss a woman on the first date.

Consider how this works.

Then, as you begin to flirt more and more, you can start getting a little more obvious about your interests, while never really crossing that line.

As you do this, you’ll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.

The real fun begins at this point.

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